BY JOYCE WONG JIN YI
HAVE you ever experienced situations that overwhelmed and stressed you up? If yes, what did you do effectively to help yourself to overcome these negative feelings? If you don’t know yet, interested to learn more about how you can immediately change your negative emotions to positive emotions?
Let me share with you my little journey first. Last month, my aunt fell and fractured her left femur head and went through surgery. She is in her healing journey with the proper physiotherapist care. This month, she fell again and fractured her right femur head. Now, both of her legs are injured. She is 86 years old and single. I am the primary caregiver to her.
[ihc-hide-content ihc_mb_type=”block” ihc_mb_who=”unreg” ihc_mb_template=”3″ ]The sudden happened of these incidents has made my schedule and life upside down. From the hospital admission to the physio care, medical supplies all the essential care for her add a lot of extra workload on my schedule. I canceled all the meetings, events, and training. Because the most urgent and important case to handle now is her case at the moment. As I managed 99.9% of the tasks, these situations overwhelmed me, and my stress quickly built up.
The one technique that I used to help me switch my negative emotions to positive ones was changing my perspective. Yes. You’re right. While you can not control the circumstances that happen in your life, you can master how to stay in control of your emotions. How you react to the situations determines the life that you are going through right now.
While the terrible things that happen are real, the question is, how are you going to allow that to shape your life? Are you going to let it tear you down, or will you use it to empower you to power through your current situation? Changing my perspective immediately helped me turn my negative feelings (frustrated, sad, stressed) into positive ones.
This is the HOW. Asking yourself, ” What if everything that happened in your life, including the most painful events, was happening FOR you, not TO you?” It is about the meaning you give to the situation. Instead of ” Why did this happen to me? Why only me alone handling this case? Why is it so unfair?” My answer to the above question is, ” What if this happens for me? This situation gives me a chance to learn how to handle the situation. If next time this situation happens to other family members, I will know how to handle this. The problem can be a gift.”
When you change the meaning that you attached to the event, you change how you feel. When you get a new perspective, you have a new life. I learned this six years ago from my mentor, Tony Robbins, while I attended his seminar. Change can happen in a split second. Learning techniques on how to destress are essential. While mastering the skill of changing perspective is golden.
Let me share with you another skill. That is REFRAMING. Knowing how to reframe your current situation that makes you stressed is super helpful. Instead of saying: ” I hate to ………” You can say, ” I am blessed that I get to …….” By reframing, immediately switch your attention to something positive that you can do to help improve the situation.
ACTION is the antidote to your stress and fear. Taking action makes you feel you’re in control. As in my current situation, taking action to find a good physiotherapist for my aunt, buy the medical supplies for her, find a suitable nursing home for her, etc., make me feel more grounded and calmer. Because I know I show up my best self in this situation.
Now, it is your turn. Commit to yourself. You want to master how to stay in control of your own emotions. You can come up with a new meaning, a new empowering story to anything and everything that comes your way.
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